This year my Christmas gifts are simple — colour a picture!
These are the ones I’ve done so far…





J. and I attended ‘These Are Their Stories’. Grammy-award winning singer/guitarist Dan Hill was one of the speakers and performers for mental health. Dan spoke about his mother and siblings, who struggle(d) with Bipolar Disorder. One in five are affected by mental health issues.
Collaborative mural we women did in Women’s Wellness Arts Therapy group. Profound comment by one participant, Lisa: “Science makes living possible; the arts makes living worthwhile.”
These two pieces were done by Lisa in about an hour. It’s hard to see all the elements, but I believe the first one speaks to her passion for music and guitar-playing; and the second one is a powerful piece about time and being ‘good enough’, and it includes a fire-breathing dragon.
And each of us made a mask of how we see ourselves, and how others see us.
My beautiful friend Kusum Bhatia passed away in a tragic house fire on Tuesday, November 20th, 2018. She is survived be her dear husband Ravi and her loving son Roche.
Kusum has been a wonderful friend these past 6 years, after we first met as roommates for 2 weeks in 2013. She, Susan, and I were the ‘Three Musketeers’ – Kusum called us that. Sadly, we were supposed to meet for coffee the very week she passed so unexpectedly. I was just thinking of calling her when her husband notified me of the news. Synchronicity.
Kusum has been a true friend of the heart and an unforgettable companion, with all her funny stories about family and life. She is the only person in my contact list with a special symbol next to her name that always brightens my day whenever she calls – it’s a flower, like her name, which means Blossom (and Fire) in Hindi. May her bright spark rest in peace. (K’s Eulogy)
I am including just one pic of her here; the rest are sprinkled throughout this blog.
(NOTE: Whenever you reach the bottom of the screen, please wait for the rest of the pictures to load. You will note that I’ve given up photography as a hobby, as years have passed between posts!)
This is steps from the Danforth shooting site, just a few months after the tragedy.
It is one short block from where I used to live for 9 years (and 4 years on Pape), and where some of my friends, acquaintances, and former neighbours still live.
The weird thing is the two areas I go to visit friends – Danforth/Carlaw and Yonge/Finch – both had mass killings this past year. VERY SCARY AND SAD!!
Haven’t been posting for quite some time. Here are some pics for posterity (including one by PetSmart and two from the media).
This is reaching back a ways, but a good friend from high school played on Team Canada Women’s Ice Hockey team for two Olympics. These are pics from the 2002 Olympics in Salt Lake City – the year that BOTH the Men’s and Women’s Ice Hockey teams won!
Women’s sports has come a long way in the past 30-some years. When I was a teen, there was next to no future for women in sports, particularly team sports. Vicky is now the Head Coach for U of T’s Women’s Hockey.
Vicky is also one of the most humble people you will ever meet. She excelled at every sport she played, had a room overflowing with trophies and medals, yet she is just so modest with a great sense of humour. (We even bowled at a Doubles Bowling Tournament together as kids and won – they paired the best bowlers with the worst. Guess which one I was?)
Above left: Jayna Hefford, Cassie Campbell-Pascal (captain) and Vicky Sunohara (assistant captain)
Friends from CMHA: Dave and Jim.
–> AUGUSTINE, I didn’t include your pic to respect your privacy.
Above: Much-loved Smoky, the rescue cat I got for my friend Aaron in 2015.
Below is Professor Li, who is 106-years old in this picture. She is related to the last emperor of China and was born and raised in the Forbidden City. She’s a specialist in the Chinese language. She also raised 9 children by herself (!!) and was invited to Canada in the 1950’s at the invitation of the United Nations to help with translations at the Toronto Reference Library (her English is very good, luckily for me). The Canadian government is currently doing a study on her because of her strong genes, obvious longevity, and Manchurian ancestry with gray eyes.
Allison on one of our rare, though enjoyable, walks. Mostly we do coffees together and email and text lengthy essays on life to each other – LOL!
Don and I are coming up to our 3rd anniversary this month (June 2018), yet I have never posted his pic here. I try to be mindful about how people may feel about being seen on a seemingly stigmatizing site, such as this one.
Let it be known that no one turns me on more than a switched-on woman of colour. I have had lovers of every major race (African, Asian, Caribbean, European, South Asian, etc, etc) and religion (Aboriginal, Christian, Hindu, Muslim, Jewish, etc), and both genders or gender-fluid. So being with Don can sometimes feel so ‘status-quo’ – until you get to know him!
Andy Capp, an old cartoon favourite.
This cartoon clip applies to everyone, righteous priest and alcoholic alike…
My Uncle Tony by marriage is a proud 3rd-generation Chinese-Canadian who passed away on Sunday, June 3, 2018. He is survived by my aunt Wei and his daughter Lian. His funeral and life commemoration was on Saturday, June 9, 2018 at the atheist church in West Hill (this church is a real gem and is led by the dynamic Gretta Vosper).
It is a shame I or someone didn’t video-record Tony’s funeral service. It was beautiful and moving, and a real slice of history (Canadian, American, Chinese). Some of his former students from the University of Washington flew up and spoke of Tony’s ability to inspire a genuine desire to learn. Tony travelled to 29 countries and worked in 5 (?). A former CBC anchor, documentary filmmaker, ground-breaking author, and a much beloved professor of many years, Tony B. Chan was a trailblazer in so many areas.
Rest in peace, Tony (June 25, 1944 – June 3, 2018).
Above: University of Toronto’s main campus library set up a memorial in Tony’s honour, featuring some of his many works (written and film).
Sorry to the subscribers for all the mass editing!
Since I do rattle on about socio-environmental issues in Canada, here are some ‘fun facts’ about my family below, since *credibility* is at a premium when one is a mental health survivor…
Pics from the extended family…
Thanks Tony, be well. We love you.
(Note: These are NOT my photos; they come from an email circular.)
My relative who has been on psychiatric meds for over 40 years sent this email. She was able to stay at one job, got married, and has been active in church and in her communities.
One Word Essays
Determination
Hope
Contemplation
Love
Excitement
Security
Adventure
Contentment
Longevity
Curiosity
Heroism
Aspirations
Confusion
Honor
Accomplishment
Perseverance
Whimsy
Tradition
Happy Mother’s Day to all the women who have children of their own, or have been like a mother to others! Have a great day and year!
Today is activist and politician Tooker Gomberg’s Memorial Day.
Please read here to learn more about Tooker.
And a NOW Magazine article on his passing.
God bless his widow Angela Bischoff, who is handling both Greenspiration.org and her other eco-campaigns through the Ontario Clean Air Alliance (OCAA). Angela has twice been voted Best Activist by readers of NOW Magazine in 2013 and 2014.
Love and peace to all.
I have moved this post to its own page, ‘Then and Now’, coming soon.